Do Not Convey What Hurts Your Brother
Among the perfections of chivalry, the completeness of Noble Manners, and the excellence of Eemaan (faith) is to safeguard your brother's heart from anything that troubles it, and to protect his hearing from what hurts him.
Therefore, do not burden him with news that saddens him or wounds his feelings, for nobility lies in restraint, not in transmission.
Ibnu Hazmin رحمه الله said:
"Do not convey to your friend that which hurts his soul and does not benefit him in knowledge; this is the act of the base."
Al-Akhlaq wa As-Siyar ( 47)
And in the proverb:
"He has slandered you, who conveys slander to you."
Al-Amthal lil-Hashimi (144)
The noble person is the one who defends his brother's honor, conceals his faults, and consoles him, not the one who brings him sad news or opens the doors of worry and painful memories for him.
As for the mean person, he is the one who picks up fallen goods and spreads them in good gatherings; thus, he clouds their serenity and scatters their tranquility. And what is this if not the character of the wretched and the despicable among people.
Consider the fine tact of Wahshi (رضي الله عنه ) when the Prophet ﷺ asked him,
"Did you kill Hamzah?" He replied,
"There was something from the matter that reached you."
Al-Bukhari (1072) transmitted it.
سَأَلَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ: «أَأَنْتَ قَتَلْتَ حَمْزَةَ؟»
فَقَالَ: «قَدْ كَانَ مِنَ الْأَمْرِ مَا بَلَغَكَ.» رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ (١٠٧٢)
He answered with a word that indicates without hurting, and confirms without causing pain. Observe how he avoided anything that would remind him of the tragedy or inflame a healed wound.
Zuhayr Ibnu Abi Sulma said:
"If a man's honor is not stained by blame, then every garment he wears is beautiful."
And how beautiful are the hearts that excel in silence when speech is pain, and excel in gentleness when transmission is a burden.
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Among the perfections of chivalry, the completeness of Noble Manners, and the excellence of Eemaan (faith) is to safeguard your brother's heart from anything that troubles it, and to protect his hearing from what hurts him.
Therefore, do not burden him with news that saddens him or wounds his feelings, for nobility lies in restraint, not in transmission.
Ibnu Hazmin رحمه الله said:
"Do not convey to your friend that which hurts his soul and does not benefit him in knowledge; this is the act of the base."
Al-Akhlaq wa As-Siyar ( 47)
And in the proverb:
"He has slandered you, who conveys slander to you."
Al-Amthal lil-Hashimi (144)
The noble person is the one who defends his brother's honor, conceals his faults, and consoles him, not the one who brings him sad news or opens the doors of worry and painful memories for him.
As for the mean person, he is the one who picks up fallen goods and spreads them in good gatherings; thus, he clouds their serenity and scatters their tranquility. And what is this if not the character of the wretched and the despicable among people.
Consider the fine tact of Wahshi (رضي الله عنه ) when the Prophet ﷺ asked him,
"Did you kill Hamzah?" He replied,
"There was something from the matter that reached you."
Al-Bukhari (1072) transmitted it.
سَأَلَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ: «أَأَنْتَ قَتَلْتَ حَمْزَةَ؟»
فَقَالَ: «قَدْ كَانَ مِنَ الْأَمْرِ مَا بَلَغَكَ.» رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ (١٠٧٢)
He answered with a word that indicates without hurting, and confirms without causing pain. Observe how he avoided anything that would remind him of the tragedy or inflame a healed wound.
Zuhayr Ibnu Abi Sulma said:
"If a man's honor is not stained by blame, then every garment he wears is beautiful."
And how beautiful are the hearts that excel in silence when speech is pain, and excel in gentleness when transmission is a burden.
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" مَنْ يُرِدِ اللَّهُ بِهِ خَيْرًا يُفَقِّهْهُ فِي الدِّينَ"
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From the Ettiquettes of the day of Jumu'ah
8. Increasing In A Lot Of Salah/Du'a Upon The Prophet.
Anas Ibnu Maalik رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
Increase in doing salah/du'a upon me during the night of Jumu'ah and the day of Jumu'ah, for any one who does salah on me, Allaah does salah on him ten times.
أكثِروا الصَّلاةَ عليَّ يومَ الجمُعةِ و ليلةَ الجمُعةِ، فمَن صلّى عليَّ صلاةً صلّى اللهُ عليهِ عَشرًا.
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8. Increasing In A Lot Of Salah/Du'a Upon The Prophet.
Anas Ibnu Maalik رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
Increase in doing salah/du'a upon me during the night of Jumu'ah and the day of Jumu'ah, for any one who does salah on me, Allaah does salah on him ten times.
أكثِروا الصَّلاةَ عليَّ يومَ الجمُعةِ و ليلةَ الجمُعةِ، فمَن صلّى عليَّ صلاةً صلّى اللهُ عليهِ عَشرًا.
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عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، دَخَلَ الْمَسْجِدَ يَوْمَ الْجُمُعَةِ وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ يَخْطُبُ فَجَعَلَ يَتَخَطَّى النَّاسَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ
" اجْلِسْ فَقَدْ آذَيْتَ وَآنَيْتَ ".…
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Anger: The Gatherer of Evil
Indeed, among the greatest things that corrupt intellects, divide hearts, destroy homes, and incite enmities is the character of anger when a person gives in to it and does not strive against it.
Thus, the legislated texts warn against it, explain its danger, encourage its suppression, and promise reward for those who control themselves when it erupts.
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه narrated that a man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, "Advise me." He said, "Do not get angry." The man repeated the request several times, and he said, "Do not get angry." (Al-Bukhari 5765 transmitted it).
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ ٱللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى ٱلنَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ: أَوْصِنِي، قَالَ: «لَا تَغْضَبْ»، فَرَدَّدَ مِرَارًا، قَالَ: «لَا تَغْضَبْ»
رَوَاهُ ٱلْبُخَارِيُّ (٥٧٦٥).
This questioner sought from the Prophet ﷺ a comprehensive and preventative advice that would benefit him in his religion and worldly life, and the Prophet ﷺ did not add anything beyond saying, "Do not get angry." The man repeated his request, and the Prophet ﷺ repeated the advice because he knew that anger is the root of many evils, and that whoever suppresses it will be safe from its sins, will preserve his religion, will protect his honor, and people will be safe from him.
One of the narrators said, "I thought of what he said when he said what he said, concluding that anger gathers all evil."
Indeed, among the greatest things that corrupt intellects, divide hearts, destroy homes, and incite enmities is the character of anger when a person gives in to it and does not strive against it.
Thus, the legislated texts warn against it, explain its danger, encourage its suppression, and promise reward for those who control themselves when it erupts.
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه narrated that a man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, "Advise me." He said, "Do not get angry." The man repeated the request several times, and he said, "Do not get angry." (Al-Bukhari 5765 transmitted it).
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ ٱللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى ٱلنَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ: أَوْصِنِي، قَالَ: «لَا تَغْضَبْ»، فَرَدَّدَ مِرَارًا، قَالَ: «لَا تَغْضَبْ»
رَوَاهُ ٱلْبُخَارِيُّ (٥٧٦٥).
This questioner sought from the Prophet ﷺ a comprehensive and preventative advice that would benefit him in his religion and worldly life, and the Prophet ﷺ did not add anything beyond saying, "Do not get angry." The man repeated his request, and the Prophet ﷺ repeated the advice because he knew that anger is the root of many evils, and that whoever suppresses it will be safe from its sins, will preserve his religion, will protect his honor, and people will be safe from him.
One of the narrators said, "I thought of what he said when he said what he said, concluding that anger gathers all evil."
The Prophet ﷺ was the most forbearing of people; he did not get angry for himself, nor did he take revenge for himself, but as it came in his description: "The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ never took revenge for himself, except when the sanctity of Allaah's sanctities was violated, then he would take revenge for Allaah." (Al-Bukhari 3560 and Muslim 2327).
«مَا ٱنْتَقَمَ رَسُولُ ٱللَّهِ ﷺ لِنَفْسِهِ قَطُّ، إِلَّا أَنْ تُنْتَهَكَ حُرْمَةٌ مِنْ حُرُمَاتِ ٱللَّهِ، فَيَنْتَقِمَ لِلَّهِ بِهَا» رَوَاهُ ٱلْبُخَارِيُّ (٣٥٦٠)، وَمُسْلِمٌ (٢٣٢٧).
So when he was angry, he was angry for Allaah, and when he forgave, he forgave for the sake of his Lord, so he was an example in every situation.
Leaving off anger for the sake of Allaah gathers all good Noble Mannerism. It was said to Imam Abdullaah Ibnu Al-Mubarak: "Gather for us the noblest of manners in one word," and he said, "leaving of anger."
See how he made leaving off anger the foundation of noble character traits, since with it, the tongue is safe from slander, the heart from hatred, and the hand from transgression.
The physicians have pointed out the effect of anger on the body and soul, saying: "Two-thirds of well-being is in leaving off anger," because anger releases stress hormones, destroys nerves, weakens the heart, and clouds the mind.
O servant of Allaah, when anger arises in your chest, remember that it is the gatherer of evil, the root of all harm, and that forbearance is the adornment of the pious, the mark of the pure, and its reward with Allaah is great.
Allaah, the Glorified and Exalted, said:
﴿ وَٱلْكَاظِمِينَ ٱلْغَيْظَ وَٱلْعَافِينَ عَنِ ٱلنَّاسِ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلْمُحْسِنِينَ ﴾
[آلِ عِمْرَان: ١٣٤]
(And those who restrain their anger and pardon men – and Allaah loves the good doers)
[Al-Imran: 134].
That is, those who control their anger when it flares up, and restrain their tongues when they are about to speak, and overcome themselves when they are provoked. They do not stop there, but they forgive those who have wronged them and do good to those who have made mistakes; thus they combined suppressing anger, forgiveness, and kindness, so they attained Allaah's love – and is there a higher station than that?!
The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said: If anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allaah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large eyed maidens he wishes. (Abu Dawud 4777 transmitted it and Shaykh Al-Albani authenticated it).
«مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا وَهُوَ قَادِرٌ عَلَىٰ أَنْ يُنْفِذَهُ، دَعَاهُ ٱللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ عَلَىٰ رُءُوسِ ٱلْخَلَائِقِ، حَتَّىٰ يُخَيِّرَهُ مِنْ أَيِّ ٱلْحُورِ شَاءَ» رَوَاهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ (٤٧٧٧)، وَصَحَّحَهُ ٱلْأَلْبَانِيُّ.
See, may Allaah have mercy on you! How great is the reward of those who restrain their anger while they are able to punish, not out of weakness or inability, but out of reverence and shyness for Allaah and love of forgiveness. Thus, they deserve honor from Allaah on the Day of Resurrection, when they will be given a choice in beauty and pleasure.
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«مَا ٱنْتَقَمَ رَسُولُ ٱللَّهِ ﷺ لِنَفْسِهِ قَطُّ، إِلَّا أَنْ تُنْتَهَكَ حُرْمَةٌ مِنْ حُرُمَاتِ ٱللَّهِ، فَيَنْتَقِمَ لِلَّهِ بِهَا» رَوَاهُ ٱلْبُخَارِيُّ (٣٥٦٠)، وَمُسْلِمٌ (٢٣٢٧).
So when he was angry, he was angry for Allaah, and when he forgave, he forgave for the sake of his Lord, so he was an example in every situation.
Leaving off anger for the sake of Allaah gathers all good Noble Mannerism. It was said to Imam Abdullaah Ibnu Al-Mubarak: "Gather for us the noblest of manners in one word," and he said, "leaving of anger."
See how he made leaving off anger the foundation of noble character traits, since with it, the tongue is safe from slander, the heart from hatred, and the hand from transgression.
The physicians have pointed out the effect of anger on the body and soul, saying: "Two-thirds of well-being is in leaving off anger," because anger releases stress hormones, destroys nerves, weakens the heart, and clouds the mind.
O servant of Allaah, when anger arises in your chest, remember that it is the gatherer of evil, the root of all harm, and that forbearance is the adornment of the pious, the mark of the pure, and its reward with Allaah is great.
Allaah, the Glorified and Exalted, said:
﴿ وَٱلْكَاظِمِينَ ٱلْغَيْظَ وَٱلْعَافِينَ عَنِ ٱلنَّاسِ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلْمُحْسِنِينَ ﴾
[آلِ عِمْرَان: ١٣٤]
(And those who restrain their anger and pardon men – and Allaah loves the good doers)
[Al-Imran: 134].
That is, those who control their anger when it flares up, and restrain their tongues when they are about to speak, and overcome themselves when they are provoked. They do not stop there, but they forgive those who have wronged them and do good to those who have made mistakes; thus they combined suppressing anger, forgiveness, and kindness, so they attained Allaah's love – and is there a higher station than that?!
The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said: If anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allaah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large eyed maidens he wishes. (Abu Dawud 4777 transmitted it and Shaykh Al-Albani authenticated it).
«مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا وَهُوَ قَادِرٌ عَلَىٰ أَنْ يُنْفِذَهُ، دَعَاهُ ٱللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ عَلَىٰ رُءُوسِ ٱلْخَلَائِقِ، حَتَّىٰ يُخَيِّرَهُ مِنْ أَيِّ ٱلْحُورِ شَاءَ» رَوَاهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ (٤٧٧٧)، وَصَحَّحَهُ ٱلْأَلْبَانِيُّ.
See, may Allaah have mercy on you! How great is the reward of those who restrain their anger while they are able to punish, not out of weakness or inability, but out of reverence and shyness for Allaah and love of forgiveness. Thus, they deserve honor from Allaah on the Day of Resurrection, when they will be given a choice in beauty and pleasure.
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Revenge which will not benefit in anything.
Ibnu Al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
Indeed, a servant's joy on the Day of Resurrection will be intensified by what he has of rights due to him from people regarding their wealth, selves, and honor. The wise person considers this as provision for the day of poverty and need, and does not nullify it with revenge which will not benefit him in anything.
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Ibnu Al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
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" مَنْ يُرِدِ اللَّهُ بِهِ خَيْرًا يُفَقِّهْهُ فِي الدِّينَ"
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